Sekedar Berbagi: How To Win Friends and Influence People

Hey folks!

So, straight to the point. Dulu ketika SD, gue pernah dapet hadiah buku dari seorang tante. Well, sebenernya bukan dari dia langsung sih. Jadi kita main ke toko buku and she was like “Pick one that you like, I’ll treat you”. And I was like “OKAY!!!”

How to Win Friends and Influence People
How to Win Friends and Influence People (Photo credit: Wikipedia) Not exactly the book cover I was looking for but I think it’s still the same.

Ada satu buku yang sangat menarik perhatian gue. Yaitu ” How To Win Friends and Influence People: For Teens” dari Dale Carnegie. Dan gue yang waktu itu baru aja mendapat menstruasi pertama, merasa udah jadi orang dewasa banget, sangat tertarik sama buku itu (cieee). Ditambah lagi gue baru aja akan masuk SMP (ok too much information). Cover bukunya berwarna baby pink dengan tinta silver. Buku itu selalu gue baca kapan pun dan dimana pun, sampe gue bawa ke sekolah. Tetapi, later on, buku itu hilang karena dicuri temen sebangku gue yang klepto. Padahal waktu itu gue baru kelas 1 smp, I was that naive. Why did you do that, girl… why 🙁

Ok kebablasan. What I’m trying to say is, ketika kuliah gue akhirnya membaca buku Dale Carnegie lagi. Bahkan gue menemukan orang yang meringkas point-point penting dari buku itu (Well, thank you internet). So, let me share it!

“How to Win Friends and Influence People”

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

  1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
  2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six Ways to Make People Like You

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Win People to Your Way of Thinking

  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
  6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
  11. Dramatize your ideas.
  12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other person save face.
  6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
  7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

So.. Find it useful? Thank you for reading 🙂 Happy weekend to all of you~

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